Posts by jezebel influence

encouragement and support.. from recovery of your self-esteem, by carolynn hillman, 1992. compassion: compassion is like a healing potion that goes directly to where you.

jezebel influence

Thanks JANG,

Nice to have something so positive and uplifting!

Any tips anyone in raising children with positive self esteem?
I find its the one thing holding me back in doing what i want to in my life,and dont want that for my kids.

I suppose those same thoughts can be used as a great way for a parent to encourage self esteem in kids.

Treat children with compassion-and they will treat themselves and others this way.

Acceptance-to accept that they will have faults and not be forever pointing them out.And they will in return accept others.

Respect- their feelings,likes dislikes.Let them stick up for themselves.Then they learn to be assertive.

Encouragement-that you are always their if they need it.And they are doing well.Tell them thier good points.

Support-If times get tough that you will help them through..are always there.Let them know how important they are.

Stroking-nurture with food,cuddles,tell them over and over that you lovethem.Let the positive comments outway the negative telling offs.

Oh how I wish my Mum had followed this advice,but as she doesnt treat herself with this respect how could she treat me any better?

This has been helpful

JEZ
(trying to break the cycle class!)

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Am I unwelcome here?

by Esmeralda in

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i've been sitting here a little while lurking about and reading posts...and.

forcing myself not to post to several threads that i know would get me.

i have a comment that i have to make though, and i hope that.

jezebel influence

Esmeralda,

I just read your story on your web site and wanted to tell you how much it touched me.

Please dont let others get you down,
I also find reading or listening to negative people can make me feel very drained.
So I try not to take notice of it if I read it here.

I am new here and have wondered if what I say may give a wrong impression of me as I have trouble putting my thoughts to paper ,and everyone else seems so good at it!

And I think that may make me unwelcome here.
But I need this....and there maybe one person here that finds a glimps of my thoughts refreshing-whatever so I keep going.

In other words ...if some people didnt want to welcome you or others here ,I do.

PLEASE stick around!

HUGS from jez

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Working Mums

by shalom in

as a first time mum i am hoping some of the more experienced mums and dads will reply with their thoughts and advice.... my baby is 4 1/2 months old and i am on maternity leave.

i will be returning to part time work (4 hours per day) in a month.

my boyfriend is being made redundant and is looking for another job but expects to take a pay cut which means i may soon have to resume full time work and my baby will attend a nursery/childcare centre during the day.. so far, all i have heard is negative thoughts and opinions about this from (mostly) family and some friends.

jezebel influence

Just so anyone reading tihs knows Shalom and I are sisters.

And Mommy that was great advice!

When JAS was 1and half I was in a situation where I had to work full time for about 4mths,to save for a deposit for ahouse.If I hadnt done this I would still be living with domineering inlaws!

Before that I was of the opinion that children should only ever be looked after by family.

I thoroughly investigated about 10 preschools and found 2 that i would trust.I cant believe the state of some of those schools!

Anyway,I did enrol Jasmine and she would often cry-but she would with family also,and when I phoned 10 mins later I could hear her laughing in the back ground!

Some people who are against preschools have never been in one and they become extended family for the child.

And ps golden rule never feed a baby catnip!

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FREE ADVICE

by peaceloveharmony in

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hey people .

well, um, ya, so i'm just gonna offer some free, unsolicited adive here...... quick aside: for those of you that don't know me, here's a little background (short and sweet version)....raised a jw, baptized at 15, da'd at 17. .

here is a little plh philosophy:.

jezebel influence

Thanks PLH,
Seems the last year ive been learning that same lesson!
Have to remind myself every now and then though.

Jez

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The elusive Brother Some.

by Norm in

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the elusive brother some and the watchtower society.. in brooklyn , they have for years been bothered by a shady and very mystical brother.

they usually call him some.

we receive constant reassurances from the watchtower that what is printed in the literature is the truth.

jezebel influence

Norm,
Thankyou for your post as I wasnt attending meetings at the time of this newlight,and I always wondered how they got around explaining that one!

The witnesses around at that time would rather not pay to much attention to this light at the end of the tunnel being removed from them, then totally lose the crutch that being a witness is.So the tunnel just got longer or indefinite...

Thankyou Norm very helpful!

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Like a moth to a flame

by Esmeralda in

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hi everyone.... what is it about this place?

what is it that keeps drawing me back when i have.

all these plans to try to just leave the jw issues alone, behind me and think.

jezebel influence

Dear Essie,
Sorry to hear of your illness.

I had started studying again about a year and a half ago because I wanted to learn about God through my own decision not forced by a parent.But then my bro and sis showed me info of the internet and also 'crisis of concience'.

I was already having problems noticing the backstabbing etc in the cong,and couldnt take the blood issue,attitude to women and children and many other aspects of JWS life.

So I found this forum,and although Idont always-or ever post in the debates about religion,I like to listen to others and learn.It also motivates me to get out my bible,and read occasionaly.

I am trying to find my place in this earth.And people here have been very friendly and given me very wise advise about things they have experienced that I am also.

I too am an OPRAH fan-she is amazing dont you think!
I am trying to find my spirit and the meaning in life.

My family isnt what I would want it to be,and I dont have many friends now since having children quite young.
So I get the socialising here alittle bit!And people reaffirm my trust in human kindness.

I hope you feel better soon,

jez

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Working Mums

by shalom in

as a first time mum i am hoping some of the more experienced mums and dads will reply with their thoughts and advice.... my baby is 4 1/2 months old and i am on maternity leave.

i will be returning to part time work (4 hours per day) in a month.

my boyfriend is being made redundant and is looking for another job but expects to take a pay cut which means i may soon have to resume full time work and my baby will attend a nursery/childcare centre during the day.. so far, all i have heard is negative thoughts and opinions about this from (mostly) family and some friends.

jezebel influence

Shalom,

Do whats best for you and your baby
Childcare centres are much better than they used to be
To work in one you nearly need a teaching degree,most mums dont have the same knowledge!

Dont listen to negative comment,everyone seems to have an opinion as to what you should do for your child once you have one.
Its impossible to please everyone-so please yourself.Its your life.

At least your child can look forward to seeing someone who treasures every single moment with them !

And I speak from experience that they usually love preschool,and will find themselves a surrogate mum.

LOVE SD

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JW Venus Williams has been NAUGHTY

by Focus in

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a reliable source (other than the national enquirer, that is) has reported that jw venus williams has been spotted in public passionately kissing an older male called "frankie" outside a mall near palm beach gardens, florida, and then getting into a car with him.

the couple met at the art institute of fort lauderdale.... is this chaste behavior as required by the watchtower?.

how long before the 20-year old gets the chop?.

jezebel influence

Sorry but who is Venus Williams
is she famous or something?